Aging gracefully

Wisdom is with the aged, and understanding in length of days. Job 12:12 ESV

I think about age a lot. As I watch my parents aging, my friends & family crossing into their sixties, and myself (smile) a fab50, I ponder about life and what is really important. I want each day to matter. I want to embrace change, living life to the fullest. I feel the drive to commit to things with a purpose. Getting older is a fact of life but how I do it is up to my discretion.

I admit, I have some issues with time. I do not believe it has passed so quickly. I blinked and became an adult. I have had a good life. I have traveled throughout the USA and abroad. I own a home, have investments, a family, a career but I still have dreams. I am not done.

I do not recall receiving as much instruction on how to age as I received on how to grow up. Maybe it is the fear or hesitation in embracing mortality. Maybe it is assumed that as we age, we will know what to do. But I needed to search my inner-being and find the answer to how will I age gracefully? My faith in a loving creator will help. And also my belief that life is given to help us awaken to this divine truth; life continues just as love without end.

I believe, I have answered my question. Life is a journey. Being grateful and open, help me live my best life. Time isn’t bending to give me extra minutes. However by paying more attention to where I may be wasting or misusing it, it appears that I can extend it. I can live with this, hopefully a long time.


He remembers to say ‘I love you’

…in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Everyday around 3:30pm I get a call. It is my dad checking in with me. When he calls, he always says something to the effect of, “I am just checking in with our leader, number 1” (I am the eldest of three daughters). He then proceeds to tell me about his daily activities, some are real, some are not but are real to him, and how blessed he is. He remembers that my mom returned to be with God but I am not sure how clearly the funeral or her sickness are inside of his thoughts. He always ends our conversations with his appreciation for how my sisters and I are taking care of the old man. What makes these conversations so special is that I will get another call shortly after this one sharing with me the same information. My dad not remembering that he had just spoken to me. My father has short term memory loss.

My dad has always been a kind gentleman, filled with humility and grace. He has always been a servant, willing to help anyone. My dad has never met a stranger. So, today although he loses track of actions in the present moment, he has maintained a pleasantness. I am praying that he can hold on to this for a longtime. Rest assured, he is at peace with his memory. He always shares that for a man of eighty plus, he is doing good. His doctor says so too.

“Live a good honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.” Dalai Lama

I am writing the Thanksgiving blog to share with others the special relationship that I have with my dad. And for the record, it is not a burden but an honor to have taken care of my mom and now dad. As my once young vibrant father settles into being a weaker more frail octogenarian, I am thankful that I am here to share these moments and to experience the circle of life with him. I see life differently because of these experiences. I recognize that what I fill my day with will soon become the backdrop of my future thoughts and memories. Needless to say, I am making better choices now.

If you ask me is it important for my dad to remember me? The answer of course is, yes! But I know without question that my memories are just as important. I am thankful that despite all that my dad forgets, he still remembers to call me to say, ‘I love you’. Have a Happy Thanksgiving Season!